Say “No” to Yes.
Overwhelm is a big issue for many of us. We have much to do and so many tools to help us do it. Saying “no” to yes may be the easy way out.
We often say yes when we want or need to say no. At times, this is what gets us pulled in to the overwhelm trap and we get sucked in like a whirlpool.
We say yes to those we love. Yes to those we want to help. Yes to volunteer activities. We also say yes to procrastination and negative self-talk.
I invite you to learn to say “No”, or at least “Later” or “Maybe”. Say no when you need to rest, renew or regroup before you say yes. Honor your true feelings and your need for self-care and say “yes” when you can honor that yes without regret or burnout.
Some suggestions to reduce overwhelm, i.e., say, “no” or “later” to:
- Every volunteer opportunity that comes to you
- Checking email on your phone when out on a social occasion
- Saying “yes” when you really need to say “no” or “later”
- Saying “yes” when some outside voice is in control (not your own voice or heart, but, e.g., society or ego)
- Working for hours without a break
- Negative self-talk
Do you say yes when you want to say no? I’d love to hear how that makes you feel, or how you learn to say no. Please share in the comments below or on my Facebook page.